Pure Forgiveness

Pure Forgiveness

A gentle meeting of clear awareness and a soft, open heart.

Introduction

Pure Forgiveness is the meeting place of clear seeing and a soft, open heart. The mind recognizes what has happened with honesty. The heart allows the pain to be held, to move, and to be released.

Forgiveness does not mean that harm was acceptable. It means that you no longer wish to carry the knot of resentment in your own body, mind, and nervous system. It is a gift you offer to yourself, and from that gift, others are also blessed.

1. What is Pure Forgiveness?

Pure Forgiveness is forgiveness grounded in clear awareness (Pure Mind) and resting in gentle warmth (Pure Love).

  • Presence: You become grounded in your body and breath.
  • Truth: You acknowledge what actually happened.
  • Release: You invite the burden to soften and be released in Love.

Pure Forgiveness is not forced, not rushed, and not a spiritual bypass. It respects your nervous system and your lived experience. You go at the pace that feels safe and honest.

2. Asking forgiveness from others

When you have harmed or hurt someone, forgiveness begins with humility and real care.

  • See clearly what you did or failed to do.
  • Acknowledge the impact on the other person.
  • Offer a sincere apology without self-attack and without excuses.
  • Ask for forgiveness, but do not demand it.
  • Allow them their timing, their boundaries, and their process.

Example: “I see how my actions caused you pain. I am sorry. I regret this, and I want to live more kindly. I hope, in time, you can forgive me. I wish healing for both of us.”

3. Asking forgiveness for myself

Self-forgiveness is often the deepest and most challenging form of forgiveness.

  • Recognize that you were doing the best you could with the awareness, conditioning, and woundedness you had at the time.
  • See clearly the harm or confusion that arose.
  • Open to a gentle release of self-hatred and harsh judgment.
  • Commit to live with more wisdom and kindness going forward.

Self-forgiveness phrase: “May I forgive myself. May I learn from this. May I be free.”

4. Asking forgiveness for those I have hurt

This also includes an inner prayer for those you have harmed:

“May those I have hurt be held in Pure Love. May they find healing, protection, and peace. May any harm I have caused be gently undone in Love.”

5. Asking forgiveness for those who have hurt or harmed me

Forgiving those who have harmed you does not mean saying what they did was okay, or that you must remain close to them. It means that you no longer want your heart to be ruled by what happened.

A gentle phrase:

“May this pain be released from my heart. May I be free. May they also be healed in Pure Love.”

6. How forgiveness works

Forgiveness has a simple inner “physics”:

  1. Acknowledging truth – You stop denying or minimizing what happened.
  2. Feeling the hurt safely – The body and nervous system are allowed to feel the impact in a grounded way.
  3. Releasing the story – The mind slowly loosens its repeated stories and self-talk around the hurt.
  4. Opening to a larger field – You let the hurt be held in something larger than your personal identity (Pure Mind, Pure Love, God, Christ, Buddha Nature, or a vast kind presence).

7. Why forgiveness is important

Without forgiveness, old pain continues to speak in the present and colors how you see yourself and others.

  • Ends inner war.
  • Reduces anxiety, tension, and freeze in the body.
  • Softens harsh self-criticism.
  • Opens more authentic connection with others.
  • Restores your ability to feel joy, creativity, and gratitude.

8. Benefits to myself and others

Benefits to you

  • A softer nervous system: less chronic fight, flight, or freeze.
  • More space inside to feel and respond rather than react.
  • A kinder relationship with your own parts, memories, and vulnerabilities.
  • Greater trust in Pure Mind and Pure Love as your true home.

Benefits to others

  • You stop passing on your pain through reactivity, blame, or withdrawal.
  • Your presence becomes safer and more reliable.
  • Relationships are allowed to heal or to end with greater peace.
  • You model a path of healing that others may choose for themselves.

9. Are my existing practices already forgiveness?

If you are grounding in Pure Mind, acknowledging the experience truthfully, and resting in Pure Love, then you are already participating in a deep form of forgiveness.

To make the forgiveness intention more explicit, you can gently add:

“May this be released in Pure Mind. May this be healed in Pure Love.”

10. Short and simple phrases of forgiveness

  • “May this be released in Pure Mind.”
  • “Let this be healed in Pure Love.”
  • “I forgive. I release. I let this go.”
  • “May I be free. May you be free. May this be undone in Love.”

11. Helpful guides and teachers

  • Jack Kornfield – forgiveness through Buddhist compassion and storytelling.
  • Tara Brach – mindfulness, self-compassion, and trauma-sensitive forgiveness.
  • Jeshua ben Joseph (The Way of Mastery) – radical forgiveness, surrender, and allowing all things to be undone in Love.

May your forgiveness practice be gentle, honest, and deeply rooted in the Pure Mind and Pure Love that are always available in this very moment.

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