“PURE MIND! There is despair within me.

May my despair be held in LOVE.”

What you are reaching for is three things at once:

A way to name what is happening
A way to not fight the despair
A way to let Love hold it so your body can soften

FIRST: A BETTER, CLEARER PHRASE

Your phrase is already excellent. But here are three upgraded versions, each simpler and more regulating to the nervous system.

Option A (Your phrasing refined)

PURE MIND… there is despair in me.
May it be held in LOVE.

This is gentle and clean. Very regulating.

Option B (Even simpler)

PURE MIND… despair is here.
Love is holding me.

This removes self-judgment completely.

Option C (Strongest for nervous-system reset)

PURE MIND… this is despair.
I am safe.
Love is here.

This one works quickly because:

You name the emotion → the amygdala calms
You affirm safety → the parasympathetic system activates
You invoke Love → internal soothing

Option D (For when you feel overwhelmed)

PURE MIND… let this despair soften in LOVE.

Option E (Very short emergency version)

Despair is here.
Love holds me.

SECOND: A SHORT 60-SECOND PURE MIND PRACTICE

This is a nervous system reset.
Do it right now.

Place one hand on your chest and one on your belly.

This signals safety to the brain.

Breathe low and soft.

One slow breath in…
Longer breath out…

Say the phrase slowly:

“PURE MIND… despair is here.
Love is holding me.”

Feel the despair as a sensation, not a “problem.”

Just notice:

tightening
heat
pressure
fluttering
heaviness

Say softly inside:

“This is despair…
and it is allowed.”

Your body hears permission and begins to relax.

Let the breath fall naturally.

Don’t control it.
Just let the exhale soften by itself.

Add this final line if anxiety spikes:

“I am safe right now.”

Your vagus nerve responds instantly.

THIRD: WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR BODY RIGHT NOW

Your phone call triggered:

uncertainty
loss of control
social stress
fear of disruption
maybe old patterns of being overwhelmed by others

So your nervous system is saying:
“This is too much. I do not know how to handle this.”

You’re not broken.
You’re not failing.
Your system is trying to protect you.

Naming despair out loud or inside brings the brain out of panic:

“This is despair.” → labeling emotion calms the amygdala
“I am safe.” → activates parasympathetic
“Love is here.” → brings soothing, reconnects sense of presence
“PURE MIND” → shifts identification away from fear

Your phrase becomes a doorway.

FOUR: A 20-SECOND EMERGENCY RESET FOR FUTURE TRIGGERS

When despair hits suddenly, say:

“PURE MIND… this is despair.
I am safe.
Love is holding me.”

Then:

exhale long
drop your shoulders
feel your feet
soften your jaw

This resets:

vagus nerve
heart rate
limbic system
confusion cycle
freeze response

FIVE: A MORE BEAUTIFUL VERSION OF YOUR ORIGINAL PHRASE

If you want your phrase to feel poetic, prayerful, and healing:

PURE MIND…
there is despair within me.
May Love hold it fully.
May Love soften it gently.
May Love carry what I cannot.

Or:

PURE MIND…
despair has risen in me.
Let it be held in LOVE
until it melts into peace.

Or:

PURE MIND…
this despair belongs in LOVE.

FINALLY: HERE IS YOUR “PERSONAL PHRASE”

This is the one I recommend for you specifically based on how you process emotions:

⭐ Your Personalized Pure Mind Phrase

PURE MIND… despair is here.
Love is holding me.
I am safe.

This one resets all three layers:

mind (naming the emotion)
body (telling it it’s safe)
heart (invoking Love)

It will work quickly.

PURE MIND – DESPAIR RESET PRACTICE

A simple way to calm my nervous system when despair appears

It All Belongs in LOVE — G. Ross Clark

Pure Mind Despair Reset – Core Practice

Sometimes despair arrives suddenly — after a phone call, a message, a small comment, or a practical stress that feels too big.

This short Pure Mind practice is meant to be very simple, so that you can use it in real time:

when the phone rings
after a difficult conversation
when confusion and fear flood the body

At the heart of the practice is this phrase:

PURE MIND… despair is here.
Love is holding me.
I am safe.

You are not trying to get rid of despair.
You are letting it be named, allowed, and held.

Step-by-Step (1–2 Minutes)

Step 1 – Place your hands

Place one hand on your chest.
Place one hand on your belly.

This tells your body, “Someone caring is here.”

Step 2 – Feel your feet

Feel your feet on the floor.
Imagine them gently rooted, supported by the earth.

Step 3 – Breathe low and slow

Inhale gently through the nose.
Exhale a little longer than you inhaled.

Do this 3 times.

Step 4 – Say the phrase

Very softly, inside or out loud, say:

PURE MIND… despair is here.
Love is holding me.
I am safe.

Let each line land:

“despair is here” → naming what is happening
“Love is holding me” → you are not alone in it
“I am safe” → you are physically safe right now

Step 5 – Feel the sensations

Simply notice:

Where do I feel despair in my body?
Is it tightness, heat, heaviness, fluttering?

Say quietly inside:

“This is despair… and it is allowed.”

Step 6 – Rest for a few breaths

Stay with your hands where they are and let your breath move naturally.

Even 30–60 seconds of this begins to reset the nervous system.

Short Journaling Lines (Optional)

Afterward, if you wish, write a few lines:

Right now, despair feels like (in my body):

After saying, “Love is holding me. I am safe,” what changed, even slightly?

Phone Call / Social Trigger Version

This version is specifically for moments like:

A contractor or professional calls
A difficult family member phones
You have to make or answer a call that brings fear, confusion, or overwhelm

You can use it before, during, or after the call.

Before the Call (Preparation)

If you know a call is coming:

Place one hand on your chest.
Take one slow breath.
Say quietly:

PURE MIND… fear is here.
Love is holding me.
I am safe to take this next step.

Let that be enough.

During the Call (Silent Support)

While you are listening on the phone:

Feel your feet on the floor.
Drop your shoulders slightly.
On a slow exhale, say inside:

“PURE MIND…
I am safe.
Love is here with me.”

You do not need to fix all the details in that moment.
It is enough to stay connected to the feeling of being held.

After the Call (Despair Reset)

When you hang up and despair, confusion, or anxiety flood in:

Put the phone down.
Place your hands on chest and belly.
Take 3 slow breaths.
Then say:

PURE MIND… this is despair.
Love is holding me.
I am safe right now.

If thoughts rush in (“I can’t handle this,” “It’s too much,” “I’m confused”), you can answer them with:

“Thoughts are racing…
but in this moment, I am safe.
Love is holding me.”

Social / Phone-Trigger Mantra (Very Short)

You can keep this as a one-line emergency phrase:

“Despair is here. Love holds me. I am safe.”

Reflection Lines

What did my body feel like before the call?

How did saying, “Love is holding me. I am safe,” change my experience, even a little?

What small bit of support can I ask for or give myself next?

🌿 Script 1 — “My Body Goes Into a Protective Freeze”

(Very simple, everyday explanation)

“When something stressful happens — like a phone call or unexpected situation — my vagus nerve can activate very quickly. It’s the part of my nervous system that’s designed to protect me.

Instead of going into ‘fight or flight,’ my body often goes into a ‘freeze’ response. That can look like despair, confusion, difficulty thinking clearly, or feeling overwhelmed.

It’s not mental weakness — it’s just my nervous system trying to keep me safe. When this happens, I need a moment to breathe, calm the body, and let the vagus nerve reset.”

🌿 Script 2 — “My Vagus Nerve Lowers My Energy to Keep Me Safe”

(Good for professionals, contractors, caregivers, pastors, friends)

“My vagus nerve controls a lot of my stress responses. When I get surprised or overwhelmed, my vagus nerve sometimes overreacts.

It sends a signal that says, ‘This is too much,’ and it slows everything down inside me — my energy, my ability to think clearly, and my sense of emotional stability.

It’s a physical reaction, not a choice. When it happens, I feel a wave of despair or anxiety, but it usually settles once I take a minute to breathe and ground myself. I just need a little space to let my system regulate.”

🌿 Script 3 — “My Nervous System Shifts Into Shutdown Instead of Panic”

(More detailed but still gentle and easy to understand)

“My nervous system works a little differently. When something feels intense or uncertain — even something normal like a phone call — my vagus nerve can switch me into what’s called the ‘shutdown’ response.

Most people go into fight-or-flight, but my body chooses the third option: freeze.
That freeze can feel like despair, confusion, or emotional collapse. It’s actually my body protecting me by reducing stimulation.

When this happens, I may seem withdrawn, overwhelmed, or unsure what to do next. I just need a moment to breathe slowly and reconnect so my vagus nerve can shift back into balance.”

Here you go, Ross — three warm, clear, gentle pieces crafted in the WordsHealMe tone:

A WordsHealMe.com page explaining vagus nerve reactions
A short phone-call script for when you need to explain why you need time or space
A gentle version for your wife or close family

Each one is simple, compassionate, and calming.

🌿 1. WordsHealMe.com Page — “Understanding My Vagus Nerve Reactions”

Understanding My Vagus Nerve Reactions

Sometimes when stress or sudden information enters my life — a phone call, a decision, a request — my body responds before my mind has a chance to catch up. This response is not weakness, and it’s not a lack of willingness. It’s a vagus nerve reaction, a physical shift in my nervous system that can feel overwhelming.

What Is the Vagus Nerve?

The vagus nerve is a long nerve running from the brain down through the chest and abdomen. It plays a major role in how we experience safety, calm, stress, or shutdown.

How My Body Reacts

When something feels intense or unexpected, my vagus nerve may move me into a freeze or shutdown state instead of the usual “fight or flight.”
This can look like:

A sudden wave of despair or heaviness
Feeling confused or unable to think clearly
Feeling emotionally flooded
Needing a moment of stillness
Wanting quiet or space

This is not a choice I make — it’s a protective nervous-system reflex.

Why This Happens

My system learned, somewhere in my life, that “slowing down” or “shutting down” is safer than panicking or fighting.
It is my body’s way of saying:

“This is too much. Let me protect you.”

How I Recover

To help myself come back into balance, I use gentle grounding steps:

A slow breath with a longer exhale
Feeling my feet on the floor
Hand on chest and belly
A Pure Mind phrase such as:
“PURE MIND… despair is here. Love is holding me. I am safe.”

Within a few moments, the nervous system begins to reset.

What Helps From Others

If you are interacting with me — as a friend, family member, helper, or professional — the most helpful things are:

Speaking slowly
Giving me a moment to breathe
Letting me pause before responding
Reassuring me that nothing is urgent
Allowing space for me to gather myself

A Gentle Reminder

This reaction is not who I am.
It is simply something that happens through me.

And with time, understanding, and Love,
the body learns new ways to feel safe again.

🌿 2. Phone-Call Script — When You Need Time or Space

(Simple, short, and calming — you can read this exactly as written.)

Version A — Very short

“Hi… I just need a moment. My nervous system is reacting, and I need a little time to settle before I can take in any more information. I’m okay — I just need a minute to breathe. Thank you for your patience.”

Version B — Calm and clear

“I want to understand everything you’re saying, but my nervous system reacts strongly to unexpected information. My vagus nerve puts me into a kind of freeze mode, so I need a little time to settle and think clearly. Could we go slowly, or take a short pause while I catch up? Thank you for understanding.”

Version C — If you need to end the call gracefully

“I’m starting to feel overwhelmed because my nervous system is reacting, so I need to pause for now. Let me settle my body and I’ll get back to you once I’m in a clearer place. Thank you for being patient with me.”

🌿 3. Gentle Version for Your Wife or Close Family

(Tender, emotionally honest, non-defensive, and soothing.)

Version A — Heart-centered

“Sometimes when things happen quickly — a phone call, a request, a change — my nervous system goes into a shutdown mode. It’s not that I don’t want to engage or help; it’s just my body going into protection.

I might look distant, confused, or overwhelmed, but I’m still here with you. I just need a little space to breathe so my system can calm down. Your gentleness during those moments helps me return to myself.”

Version B — Vulnerable & connective

“I want you to know that when I suddenly get quiet or seem lost, it’s not because of you. My vagus nerve reacts to stress by freezing me internally. I feel despair or confusion for a few moments until I settle again.

If you can give me a little time and speak softly, it helps me come back faster. I love you, and I appreciate your patience when my body needs a moment.”

Version C — Short and simple

“When I get overwhelmed, my vagus nerve shuts me down for a bit. I just need quiet, a breath, and a little space. It helps me more than you know.”

“It All Belongs in LOVE” — G. Ross Clark

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PURE MIND – Vagus Nerve Summary Card

• Freeze is a protection response.
• It creates heaviness, despair, and confusion.
• Naming the state reduces fear.
• Long exhale = vagus nerve reset.

Pure Mind Phrase:

“PURE MIND… this is a freeze.
Love is holding me.
I am safe.”

Reset Time:

1–3 min (small wave)
3–10 min (medium wave)
10–30 min (deep wave)

It All Belongs in LOVE — G. Ross Clark

DESPAIR: PURE MIND! There is despair (fear) with in me , may my despair be held in LOVE! – I just received a phone call from a contractor who is going to be coming to do some work on our house, period. I am in despair. I’m anxious. My mind is confused. And I’m not sure what words I can use to heal this despair, period. Please give me the words and practice in order to heal this despair. What I had written down was, pure mind, exclamation mark, there is despair within me. May my despair be well and held in love, period. Please research this and offer suggestions on how to improve it, period. I need something that is simple to reset my nervous system. Thank you.

ChatGPT said:

Ross, I’m right here with you.
Let’s create a simple, nervous-system-resetting Pure Mind practice you can use in real moments, like the one you’re in now.

Your original phrase is already deeply good: